March 4, 2023
Divorcing a spouse with narcissistic tendencies can be an especially tricky situation. They may use various tactics to gain an advantage in negotiations or cause disruption. Their self-centeredness can make it difficult to resolve and ultimately require more time and effort from both parties. Dealing with this behavior can be emotionally draining and even negatively impact your mental health after the divorce is finalized.
Once you recognize that your partner demonstrates narcissistic tendencies, you can devise a plan and emotionally prepare for any potential difficulties that may arise during the divorce process.
The Signs of a Narcissist
Classic narcissists use their charisma and charm to form shallow connections with people so that they can take advantage of them or manipulate them. They often disregard the feelings of others and are not considerate of them. In a marriage, both parties should work together to reach shared goals, but a narcissist’s need to build an overinflated opinion of themselves can ruin this.
During a divorce, someone narcissistic may often act in ways that can create difficulty for the other person and their family. They may take conflicts to a higher level and make the entire process more difficult than it needs to be:
- An inflated sense of self-esteem or -importance.
- Manipulation
- Admiration
- No empathy.
- Arrogant behavior.
- Neglect
- Exaggeration of feats accomplished.
- Overreaction to potential threats and criticism.
Expectations When Divorcing a Narcissist
A narcissistic partner can be resistant to parting ways with you in divorce. They may attempt to discredit you by using falsehoods, emotional blackmail, and manipulating the opinions of others. This behavior can be unpredictable and seem illogical. The narcissist may do anything they can to get their way, involving spiteful or vengeful acts that can result in additional costs and emotional distress to you over time.
If you are getting divorced from someone with narcissistic traits, it is important to understand that their behavior is not a reflection of you or your efforts. You must be prepared to recognize and respond to their manipulative tactics and escalating conflict. Develop a mindset that will help you stay strong and focused during this difficult time.
Be prepared to distance yourself emotionally from the narcissist’s behavior. You can anticipate them attempting to stir your emotions or impose their version of reality. Recognize their tactics and refuse to be affected. Make sure to stay focused on the end goal of a fair settlement and a positive vision for your future. Don’t let their attempts to manipulate you be successful emotionally.
In Florida, you do not need to prove your fault to get a divorce. However, your spouse’s behavior throughout the marriage or their version of events may indicate they have a narcissistic personality. Remain focused on finding a satisfactory solution to the divorce while not letting your spouse’s unpleasant behavior affect you. Gather people who can give evidence of your spouse’s manipulative behavior. You can use this to demonstrate their true character if they are too aggressive.
The Final Say
Divorce does not necessarily mean that you are completely free from your narcissistic partner. Even if you have children, your partner may still influence your life. To protect yourself, it is important to learn how to recognize your partner’s behaviors so that you can anticipate them and limit the emotional power they have over you.
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